Why do people see unfortunate events in their lives as obstacles rather than as opportunities to grow?
In this week’s episode Greg Paul, discuss that misfortune is your opponent –challenging you to show what you are capable of overcoming in your life.
It is a lesson that Greg Paul had embraced and we hope you enjoy it.
“I judge you unfortunate because you have never lived through misfortune. You have passed through life without an opponent— no one can ever know what you are capable of, not even you.”
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01:12 – Meditations by Marcus Aurelius and Stoicism
01:40 – The misfortune that fell upon Greg that pushed him to reinvent himself
02:14 – What people do when they encounter misfortune and adversity
03:41 – Disservice by sitting here complaining or not getting up early in the morning to get things done
06:07 – Greg as a sprayer kind of spraying out all the different ideas he has, all the different struggles that he was having
06:13 – Getting laser-like focused on one specific idea, one specific purpose, one purpose that could be helpful to serve someone else.
07:17 – Doing greater things rather than dwelling with life’s misfortunes
09:27 – Vagabonding and doing the thing to be of service to others
11:13 – What is more with Greg, his mission to help former felon to transition back to the society
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(Note, this was transcribed using a transcription software and may not reflect the exact words used in the podcast)
Because of my mistake and because of the adversity that I was pushed into and where I was placed I’ve had to completely reinvent myself.
You want answers. I think I’m entitled. Do you want answers? I want the truth! You can’t handle the truth.
Welcome to the Pitching the Truth Podcast.
My name is Gregory Paul. It is my honor to share with you how the truth can lead to stronger relationships, better communications wealth and happiness. Come with me each week as I share lessons and insights that I and others have learned through the power of truth. You will reflect, ponder, laugh and even sometimes cry. But I promise you will learn how to improve your life become a stronger and better person.
Hello and welcome to the Pitching to Truth Podcast. My name is Gregory Paul Kotsaftis and I’ll be your host here today.
We’re cranking up some episodes trying to get some better content going on here and trying to talk about some stuff that matters.
Today is no different today. I want to talk about something I’ve been reading for quite a while and that is Meditations by Marcus Aurelius.
I’ve been getting into a little bit of stoicism and trying to reflect upon some different things and how it works through my life and how it’s affected me every day.
So I want to share a quote with you. The quote is “I judge you unfortunate because you have never lived through misfortune. You have passed through life without an opponent— no one can ever know what you are capable of, not even you.”
Now, I never wanted the misfortune that fell upon me but I have to say it’s one of the biggest blessings I’ve had in my life. Because of my mistake and because of the adversity that I was pushed into and where I was placed. I’ve had to completely reinvent myself. Completely decide what it is I want to do with my life, where I want to go and what I want to be.
And that in itself has been a very difficult path. It’s been very very hard to try to be consistent and try to figure out what it is you want to do because of the mistakes that we all make.
We tend to hide from them we tend to ignore them rather than looking at them and saying to myself OK this is an opportunity to grow. This is an opportunity to become a better person.
We kind of shun away, or hide, or hide our shame, or get depressed, get down a little bit and feel that we should just hide.
Well, I felt like that for years. I tried to hide from many, many things but now I have to say that I’m getting a little irritated.
I get a little irritated with myself. I’m getting irritated with the fact that I’m not taking the time to really face some unfortunate things that have happened in my life.
And really push myself more to overcome them. I’m not in the battle I’m not in the struggle right now. I feel like I’m a little bit on the sidelines kind of on the bench to use an analogy for sports but I’m just not really getting where I want to be.
And I think the main reason why is because you know just like a lot of people out there feel a little sorry for myself, feel a little bit down and like life’s hard. No, why can’t it be easier?
And I’ve had this happen to me multiple times recently in my life. I kind of have gone up and down but now I’m starting to get pissed. I’m starting to get really really bullshit and the person I’m getting bullshit at is myself.
Because no one can ever know what you’re capable of. Not even you.
In other words, I’m just doing myself a disservice by sitting here complaining or not getting up early in the morning. That’s my biggest struggle right now. I’ve got all these multiple friends and people that I read about every day they get up and get shit done.
And how did they get it done they get up early in the morning? That’s the first step to try to figure out what you’re capable of.
Rather than make excuses or roll over or say that you know it’s just hard getting out of bed.
You just need to get up and get going. You need to get up and get going and do something.
You know, I’m 52 years old right now and I really want to do something impactful with my life.
I want to be able to sit back and say, “OK I did something meaningful. I want to do something that’s more productive for myself more productive that my children could admire most important that I want to leave a mark on society. That’s a positive one. I don’t want to go out on a negative mark on society I wanted to be a positive uplifting mark in society.
So all of you out there listening, however many of you are there are you know what are you doing right now? What are you doing to try to improve yourself? What are you trying to do to better society?
I don’t care if it’s a smile. The most minor smallest gesture. I don’t care if it’s volunteering, just being nice to people in general, you know engaging with people on an occasional basis, giving to society with some kind of meaningful content online, doing something you know it’s for your friends, for your family, for anybody.
What are you doing? What are you doing every day?
Because I know I have not been doing what I should be doing.
I do a lot of little things for myself.
Yes, I volunteer.
Yes, I get out in society.
Yes, I speak.
Yes, I do this podcast.
Yes, I do multiple things to try to help myself grow and help others grow from my experiences.
But man, I could be doing so much more. We’d be doing so much more work than I am now. And I think that’s a big, big problem.
We really all need to get out there and try to help the community. Help society more.
You know I’ve just been really just looking around and seeing what’s going on with people in general. You know and I’ve run to a few people that are full of excuses and it’s always quite a bit of negative energy that they’re not really sure what they want to do with their lives and they’d like to spray that on everybody.
I’ve been a bit of a sprayer myself kind of spraying out all the different ideas I have and all the different struggles I’m having.
Rather than getting laser-like focused. Trying to get focused on one specific idea, one specific purpose, one purpose that could be helpful to help someone else.
You know this misfortune, this struggle that we all have is a gift to grow.
And I think previous generations rather than grow would prefer to just sit back on the couch and grab that remote and grab a pizza maybe a six pack and watch the game. Or sit there and get lost in some mindless stupid TV drama.
Which flip and drives me crazy. You notice that you’re watching TV. You know I like to watch sports of course but catching a football game and in between they have all the drama, they have the drama shows with all their exciting teaser episodes of bombs and you know death, and all these crazy things. Like what’s gonna happen.
What a waste of fucking time.
I’ll tell you what. What a waste of time. Everybody’s guilty of getting sucked into it every once in a while but I think previous generations I know a lot of people that I grew up with or family members, they thrive on that drama.
They like to sit back and watch the drama on TV. They like to mix up a little bit of drama in their life with their family.
But at the end of the day, the real drama is with themselves because they’re not spending any time getting better improving. They just check out. They check out and they wined it on down. A good friend told me one time who shall be mentioned in a later time but they just don’t want to do anything.
People just want to sit around they want to look at their unfortunate events in their life. They want to talk about their misfortune and they’ll go, “Oh man, yeah that happened to me. And Oh, Jesus you know so hard and it’s just so hard I couldn’t get through it. I just know what to do.”.
Rather than looking that misfortune. Looking at that waste of time and thinking to themselves “What am I going to do? What am I going to do to change it?”
Because we all have the power to change. We have the power to change our behavior, change our environment, change where we are, change how much money we’re making change where we live. We all have that power and that energy.
But we’re not utilizing it. Because all of us are sitting back complaining and just basically being miserable.
And I’m just as guilty of it as anybody. But I’m here to motivate all of you to get off your ass and go do something. Do something meaningful.
I don’t care what it is. Stop complaining about your misfortune.
Stop complaining about the unfortunate circumstances or the hand you may have been dealt. Step up and figure out what the hell you’re going to do.
Get out there. Get in the game. So many people are just time wasters man. They waste so much time and there’s so much opportunity now especially in today’s world to do so many great things or just to live a life of traveling.
I just finished Vagabonding. You know Tim Ferriss shout out for turning me on to that book. Of course, I’ve been listening to him for years and finally got the book on audible which is also something I highly recommend talking about not wasting time because I drive in my car all the time and I listen to books on tape or podcasts. One of the two.
Anyway vagabonding talks about how you can really travel the world with no money.
People feel like you make excuses all I just want to travel and they feel they have to save up tens of thousands of dollars to go anywhere when their reality is a couple thousand dollars you can have a phenomenal trip for a month.
You can travel all over the world. There are so many different things that you can do with your time. So many other fortunate and wonderful blessed things that people can do with their life if they just get disciplined and if they just take the time to figure out why their life is over so unfortunate and what they’re going to do to try to overcome it and move forward.
So that’s what I’ve got for you today. Going to close to the code again.
“I judge you unfortunate because you have never lived through misfortune. You have passed to life without an opponent. No one can ever know what you’re capable of. Seneca, what are you capable of?”.
Go find out. I know I’m going to and I’m gonna stop sitting back here complaining that I’m not getting done when I need to get done because I’ve been doing that for almost a year now for a lot of reasons but you know what no excuses it’s time to get moving.
Please buy my book, The Truth About Lies: How Admitting Nothing Can Cost You Everything. And the reason why I’m pitching my book is that every penny of those funds goes towards my victims’ fund for my crimes.
And after that is done, I’m getting actively involved in Defy Ventures and Hustle2.0 to try to help the formerly incarcerated overcome and become useful members of society. To try to help them transition back into society more easily.
So that’s what I got for you right now. Thank you so much and we’ll talk to you soon.